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Hi there.


There is something that bothers the heck out of me. I see a lot about violence against women and I dont condone it. But I hardly ever see any info on violent women. I know they exist because I have experienced it firsthand. Women who do everything from throwing shoes in anger to attacking people with knives to all kinds of horrible things.

The things I am finding out scare  me.

My friend was just telling me about a violent woman who burned a man with hot oil in a fit of anger. That is outright terrifying. To do something that horrible to another human being is almost unthinkable for me. I have had my own sister come at me with a knife ready to kill me. She also tried to hit my little cousin with a Taser last night. I would like some information on detecting and dealing with violent women. I dont plan on being no one's victim.


Is there a pathology to them ?


This is a sad world, my friends. I am not safe anywhere. Men aren't safe around women. women aren't safe around men. There is this epidemic of violence and evil everywhere I look, even in my own house. I suddenly desire to live far from anywhere, far from the evil men and evil women of the planet Earth.


What am I going to do ???????????

Brother BlackmanX asked:
You are going to pray!

Let me study this more - there is actually much to say about it in scripture - and I will get back to you with specific book:chapter:verse.

This is a good question: A subject that should never be ignored!

May Jesus be with you,
JN

Oklahoma Howdy to BlackmanX,

As an old and retired cop, I'll give you a statistical answer. 80% or more of the violence and crime is directly related to alcohol and dope. Being around those using alcohol and dope also breeds violence and crime.

Reference violent women, they are rare compared to violent men.

The Biblical answer is very simple. We are to remain sober, love the Lord with all of our heart, and love others as Christ has loved us. If the Biblical answer is applied, there is no violence or crime.

Love In Christ,
Tom

 



Romans 12:17.  Recompense to no man evil for evil. Provide things honest in the sight of all men.
 18.  If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.
 19.  Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord.
 20.  Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head.
 21.  Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.

Ollie

Blackmax this is a subject that always catches my attention, and the info and research are out there, but as stated in a  study which appears  in the Canadian Journal on Behavioural Science,  while the need to stop violence against women is obvious, violence against men is being ignored.

"Our society seems to harbour an implicit acceptance of women's violence as relatively harmless," writes Marilyn Kwong, the Simon Fraser University researcher who led this study.  "Furthermore, the failure to acknowledge the possibility of women's violence jeopardizes the credibility of all theory and research directed toward ending violence against women."  

The study shows roughly that 10.8% of men in the survey pushed, grabbed or threw objects at their spouses in the previous year, while 2.5% committed more severe acts, such as choking, kicking or using a weapon.  

By contrast, 12.4% of women committed acts of minor violence and 4.7% committed severe violence.  

The violence is seldom one-sided.  Of those surveyed, 52% of women and 62% of men reported that both partners were violent.  

When questioned about who initiated the most severe conflicts, 67% of women  believed they had started it; only 26% believed it was their male spouse.

To quote Matt Vegh, a Canadian charter rights advocate, who has spent two years assisting male victims of domestic violence in the  courtrooms:

"Make absolutely no mistake," Vegh said. "Women can smoke dope, booze it up, throw a fist, wield a knife, use a gun, beat their spouse, and beat their kids. It is a type of violence that is ignored, condoned, and treated as frivolous by a justice system that survives by feeding on the one individual who is easily stereo-typed, lacks public sympathy, does not raise fear of reprisal in politicians, and often does not fight back."

I think what this guy says sums up what has happened in society when the feminist movement abandoned  biblical principals, and adapted to a different law that said I can act however I choose, and the laws of man will allow me this liberty because I am the 'weaker sex'.  
“My life would have to be in danger before I would hit a woman,” says Al. "I took a lot of scratches and bruises from my wife over the years because she knew I wouldn’t hit her back. But it will affect me for the rest of my life. It demoralizes you. It makes you almost dysfunctional with the opposite sex. People don’t understand; it’s not a matter of being more powerful.” Al never sought counseling to heal from spousal abuse because, “It’s shameful to talk about being beat up by a woman.”

Woman`s and man`s place in society and in the home is one of  God`s design, clearly defined in His Word, and everytime a man or woman casts aside His plan and tries to do things their own way, the end result is ruin and destruction.  From a female perspective, shame on the christian woman (and I use that term lightly) who uses such aggresive behaviour, or further, taunts and provokes a man  into such behaviour. God is not mocked by His own words that we are 'weaker', or our abuse of this knowledge, as He has clearly stated we will reap what we sow.

 -excerpts from -  the CJBS and http://www.sheridanhill.com/battered.html

BlackmanX

Isa 8:12 Say ye not, A confederacy, to all them to whom this people shall say, A confederacy; neither fear ye their fear, nor be afraid.
Isa 8:13 Sanctify the LORD of hosts himself; and let him be your fear, and let him be your dread.

Amen Brother Tom.

May I add Where there is love and the love of God there is no violence.