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I don't know if anyone would be interested in this or not... but some other posts got me to thinking about this. So here goes....

What are some of the ways that a spouse (or loved one) lets you know that you are loved?

I hear so many women bash their spouse. I don't mean the once-in-awhile fuss from frustration; but as a regular thing. :-\ And I always wonder if any man can be THAT bad! Wouldn't they have to have at least one or two good qualities?

And I may be more strange than has been previously thought because I know my husband is the best ever!  ;D

So I'll go first....
Not only does my husband put up with me  ;) but he is always willing to stop whatever he's doing when I have a Scripture question! There was a time not too long ago when I was really heavy-hearted about a situation. He stayed up until two in the morning to help me search Scripture and pray. He gets up at 5:30 a.m.

He is such a blessing to me! :D


Does anyone else have a great (or even good) spouse?

Sincereheart,

I have a wonderful husband of twenty eight years. He is the love of my life. He worked very hard for a number of years so I could  be home with the kids. He has never been a demanding husband, at the same time, I try never to take advantage.

A Christian woman who is bashing her husband, needs to be reminded that she is called to love her husband and her children. To do otherwise, is to break the oneness of the union of marriage. Our marriage should be a picture on this earth of Christ and His church.

Psalms 119

My husband is a very hard worker.. (has own hardwood flooring buisness) and a good father. :)

TL

Awww, I love hearing the *wonderful* things being said about the husbands.
AMEN! I agree. I have g/f's who are like that. They bad mouth their mate over anything & in public, I think thats terrible.

My Husband is just the "Bestest" lol. Seriously, he is incredibly wonderful to me! Anyone who can put up living in a life size Strawberry ShortCake looking home & drowning in Pink everything has to be good!
He also cooks for me! (Isnt that terrible? Goodness, I must sound like such a dream for a wif eh?) But I have NO clue how to cook, Ive tried so I told him when we got married, I don't cook and he said Ok, I will. He cooks for me almost everynight. He is an EXCEPTIONAL cook!
He also does little things for me that are just so sweet. I have bad anxiety & panic attacks so Im a nut job sometimes & I'll ask him to open all the closet doors in the middle of the night & turn on the lights just to reassure me and he does with no problem and comes over & kisses me & says its ok.
He also takes care of me when Im sick. He will take off from work just to stay home with me & never gets mad about it.
We've been this way for almost 10 years and I swear on my life, he acts the same way when we first met :) All I can say is Thank You Lord for bringing me someone so wonderful!!
(Im a handful & a half to put up with so...Im thankful, heheh)
:):):):)

HHmmm, well, my husband (almost 29 yrs) has a lot of wonderful qualities too...long suffering (patient), a loving and kind heart, giving and forgiving, a better father than I am mother, and I love him more than I love myself.

But even so....

there are things he does that drive me nuts. That's just the nature of being human.

Then there's such a thing as forgiveness. Thank God He has taught me that!

Gracey    :D

I'm not married, but I have a wonderful father. He is always willing to spend time with us, and never forgets a special occasion. He is always ready to protect the family against anything that might come our way. He tells me every winter morning, "Take an extra coat and hat to work - its cold out there!" or "Watch for falling branches at work, its windy!" For Sweetest Day and Valentine's Day, he gets a dozen roses for my mother and miniature potted roses for us girls (and candy, lol!) He is always ready to fill a need, and reminds me to put lotion on my hands so they won't crack. He makes sure we are safe and comfortable; he asks if I'm eating enough, if I've got warm socks, if I need hair conditioner...
Every Sunday morning he gets up early to make breakfast and warm up the bathroom for our showers. Almost every Saturday he takes the family out for lunch and a "drive".

Last Sunday, *somebody* (me) forget to wash dishes the night before...so instead of wiping a skillet to cook eggs, he got a brand new pan...lol!

I like this thread!

"I was told  a husband is like a fine wine; he gets better with age. The next day, I  locked mine in the cellar"

It`s funny, and it`s true!  21 years this month !  :D

I loved the following article:

We want to be like Christ, and in marriage we are able to learn and to express many of His attributes. Love, sharing, giving, forgiving, wisdom, kindness, trustworthiness, patience, nobleness and goodness are a few that come to mind. The marriage will reflect the degree to which husbands and wives are succeeding. Our marriages reflect our godliness. None of us are perfect and we are all walking this path together. Understanding our frailties and our need for a close mate will go a long way towards making our lives as happy as they can be within the conditions we find ourselves
http://www.unitednewscanada.org/2003/jan_feb/marriage.html

...and I LOVE the pic...I named it "Going for the Gold"  
 slow and steady wins the race!  ;)

(http://www.unitednewscanada.org/2003/jan_feb/seniors.jpg)

A Christian woman who is bashing her husband, needs to be reminded that she is called to love her husband and her children.

True.... but there's never any easy way to do it. And there's always offense taken.  :-X But we do have a few at our church who have never spoken ill of their spouses. They are such a wonderful example for me!

He has never been a demanding husband, at the same time, I try never to take advantage.

Not taking advantage! That's so important....

My husband is a very hard worker.. (has own hardwood flooring buisness) and a good father.

How wonderful! Especially the 'dad' part!  :D

Willowbirch, Your dad sounds wonderful! Now I know where you get your kindness from!  :D I bet he'll be a wonderful grandfather, too!

and I love him more than I love myself

Oh Gracey! That says it all.....


We want to be like Christ, and in marriage we are able to learn and to express many of His attributes. Love, sharing, giving, forgiving, wisdom, kindness, trustworthiness, patience, nobleness and goodness are a few that come to mind. The marriage will reflect the degree to which husbands and wives are succeeding. Our marriages reflect our godliness. None of us are perfect and we are all walking this path together. Understanding our frailties and our need for a close mate will go a long way towards making our lives as happy as they can be within the conditions we find ourselves

I'll be saving this! There's a whole of depth in that one little paragraph! And the pic is great!~  :D


I've also noticed that kids give us unconditional love! No matter how mad or frustrated they are with the parents; when things go wrong, it's the first people they run to! What an awesome display of love! What an awesome responsibilty we have! It's always reminded me that I'm much like that with God.  When things didn't go my way, I might get mad at Him... but I always needed Him!

Amen to this thread :)

LOL!! Good Dad!

NateyCakes, I just love to read about you and your husband! I always get quite a chuckle from a man living in a pink world! ;) He must think you're pretty special!  ;D

I'm just sure my husband would rebel if I tried to send him a Strawberry Shortcake lunch!  :-X LOL!

I'd love to hear more!  :D

Thanks for the picture!  :D There is a lot of story in it!

My spouse has a gift for getting me out of the doldrums when I'm discouraged. I will say that! :)

My spouse has a gift for getting me out of the doldrums when I'm discouraged.


What a priceless gift that is!  :D

Sincereheart, thank you for the compliment; I'll pass it along. ;) Yes, it has been a true blessing.    

Marriage...The Fine Print

Taking time to clean out closets led me to my marriage license the other day. I was surprised and delighted to discover a section of the license, which I had previously overlooked. Apparently, this has been on marriage licenses for quite some time. My mother and grandmother didn't know of this but, as luck would have it, I spotted the fine print in time to save all current marriages. Feel free to send gifts and notes of gratitude:

In accordance with Estrogen Alliances of the United States of America and in partnership with Making Merry Marriages, the Law of Women charges the husband to the following rules, guidelines and obligations:

Never use the following words and phrases in an obtuse manner: emotional, overly sensitive, that time of the month, Eve had long hair...why can’t you, head of household and weird.

When your wife says to take the children to the store with you, abide without question or unkind look.

It’s hard enough keeping the children and pets away for ten luxurious minutes alone. For the love of God and womankind, when your wife is taking a bath stay out of the bathroom.

Your wife will be happy that you’ve decided to buy a racecar for the local stock car races. However, do not attempt to explain how this will enhance her life. Perhaps a certificate to her favorite day spa will explain the situation in a way both of you can understand.

You are highly advised to never forget or shrug off an anniversary, birthday or holiday that is important to your wife. If you are running low on money, she may say she doesn’t want a gift. However, she is lying to make you feel better so get in the kitchen and make her dinner. Can’t cook? Learn. She learned to create a wonderful home for you.

Do not stop and smell the roses. Pick them up and bring them home to your wife.

It wouldn’t hurt for you to smell like roses every now and then. Or, perhaps, like Safeguard.

When your friends come over, you are admonished to not get into a gender war. You may win the public battle but you, dear husband, will lose the private war, which will be held after company leaves.

When dining out occasionally, do not encourage your wife to order the cheapest entree on the menu.

While doing laundry, if your wife turns your underwear pink wear them anyway.

Remember that women are amazing creatures. They have the capacity to lift you up to heaven or drag you into eternal hell. Be wise and choose well. When you fail, pray for grace. God knows you’re going to need it.


On a personal note, my husband has asked me to explain to you that the above statements do not reflect any underlying problems that exist in our relationship. He also advised me to say that he is a wonderful husband and that our previous anniversary just so happened to fall on a day in which everything went wrong.

It appears I left out the part about never using the word over-react.

Written by Kim Burke Frazzled Women Enterprises

Love your signature picture, TigerLilly!

I love your username! Joyful Dove! Its so lovely! (http://www.angelfire.com/falcon/joysong/dove.gif)

Throughly enjoying this thread!!!  It is so refreshing to see wives 'bigging up' (term used in Jamaica for lauding) instead of dissing their husbands. 'Bigging up' fathers is a rareity, thank you Willowbirch!

My husband I know for a fact is the best.  I was explaing to a friend that... my husband is my gift from God; not only do I love the wrapping (He is quite handsome, eheh), but I love what is inside of the wrapping (he is very dependable and caring).  

He got home early today and called me a work to inform that he was preparing my favourite dinner.  I was like  :D :D for the remainder of the afternoon.  Now I am ;D  ;D  He just knows how to make me smile and l keep loving him more than I thought I possible could!

My husband I know for a fact is the best.

no no no! mine is!  :D

...and mine can cook too...i`ve neer seen it...but I know he can...I just know...I know...

Nice thread!  I'll change up the scene for a minute since it is about "spouses."  My wife is the best!  For one thing, she's put up with me for 8 years, and through times that everyone else in our lives was tellin' her to leave.  Ya know what love is when you see that.  She also cooks entirely too good, cleans entirely too much, and is the sweetest mom a kid could have.  She's a talented musician, sharp as a tack, clumsy as can be  :D, cute as a bug, makes me laugh, think, and realize how at times I am wrong, and is all around the most beautiful woman on the face of the planet.  In short, she's a blessing.   :)

She's a talented musician, sharp as a tack, clumsy as can be  , cute as a bug, makes me laugh, think, and realize how at times I am wrong, and is all around the most beautiful woman on the face of the planet.  

well now that gave me a toothache LOL  :D

I heard the story of a father and a buddy, who was single, talking, and the father was telling of the wonders of married life. He said "Do you know what it means to come home at night and have three wonderful, beautiful, obedient children that are so glad to see you. Do you know what it means to come home at night and have these kids just think you are the most perfect person in the world and hang on to your every word?" The single guy says "No, what does it mean?" The father said "It means you are in the wrong house!"

  :D

    ;D

Oh, dear... :D

;D ;D ;D  <----- (laugh to the third power)

Maybe if you stop cooking, shylynne, he'll get the hint?


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Laughing to the third degree too! (http://www.jimlynch.com/images/icon_bounce01.gif)

I will ask him what he thinks of your suggestion and get back to you sym...if you see this face ->(http://www.jimlynch.com/images/grumpy_125.gif)  RUN!  :P

  (http://www.jimlynch.com/images/microwave.gif)

 toot sweet!  :D

IN THE middle of one of my parents' more memorable disagreements, my father jumped up from the table, grabbed two sheets of paper, and said to my mother, "Let's make a list of everything we don't like about each other."   Mom started writing.  Dad glowered at her, and then wrote on his paper.   She wrote again.  He watched, and every time she stopped, he would start writing.  They finally finished.  "Let's exchange complaints," Dad said. They gave each other their lists.  "Give mine back," Mom pleaded when she glanced at his sheet.  All down the page Dad had written: "I love you, I love you, I love you."

IN THE middle of one of my parents' more memorable disagreements, my father jumped up from the table, grabbed two sheets of paper, and said to my mother, "Let's make a list of everything we don't like about each other."  Mom started writing.  Dad glowered at her, and then wrote on his paper.  She wrote again.  He watched, and every time she stopped, he would start writing.  They finally finished.  "Let's exchange complaints," Dad said. They gave each other their lists.  "Give mine back," Mom pleaded when she glanced at his sheet.  All down the page Dad had written: "I love you, I love you, I love you."

I first read this years ago and have never forgotten it.  :D

Me too!

Husbands love your wives even as Christ loved the Church.

Ephesians 5:25.  Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;

Wow, that is a heap of responsible love for a man toward his spouse. That is the ultimate love required of husbands. Christ says there is no greater love than for one to lay down ones life for friends. In thiis verse Christ is telling husbands to have this same love. The love he has for His church. The giving of Himself for it. For the wife in the case of husbands.  

Can anyone think of any Bible verse that requires anything of a wife toward her husband?

Ollie

Can anyone think of any Bible verse that requires anything of a wife toward her husband?
Here's a few.....

Ephesians 5
22 Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
33....and the wife must respect her husband.  

I had heard a discussion on the radio some time ago about this. It was noted that men are required to love their wives and the wives are required to respect their husbands. The speaker brought up an interesting point about men and women and what was important to them:
Women NEED to be loved and men NEED to be respected.

Just an interesting side.....

1Pe 3:6  Sarah, for instance, taking care of Abraham, would address him as "my dear husband." You'll be true daughters of Sarah if you do the same, unanxious and unintimidated. [msg]

  :D

That is an interesting aspect. The husband and wife, one in marriage. Giving love and receiving respect. Giving respect and receiving love. And at the same time husband and wife are one in Christ submitting one to another, and all in Christ, where there is neither male nor female.

Ollie

That is a good verse. All are daughters of Sarah if they do well. The doing well being somewhat that of wife being Christ like in respect to husband.

There is another verse up front of that one that places a responsibility on the faithful wife of a husband that has not obeyed the Word.

 1 Peter 3:1.  Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives;

There is another verse in one of the Corinthian letters that states an unbelieving husband is sanctified by a believing wife and visa/versa.

Those sre great verses in 1 Peter. Thanks for bringing them to remembrance.
What a wonderful relationship God has given to men and women in marriage if in Christ and His word.

Ollie

It was a busy morning, approximately 8:30 am, when an elderly gentleman, in his 80's, came in to have sutures (stitches) removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am. I took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him.

I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. Upon exam, I saw that it was well healed, so I talked to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his sutures and redress his wound.

While taking care of his wound, we began to engage in conversation. I asked him if he had a doctor's appointment this morning, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.

I then inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for a while and that she was a victim of Alzheimer Disease.

As we talked, and I finished dressing his wound, I asked if she would be worried if he was a bit late.

He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.

I was surprised, and asked him. "And you still go every morning, even though she doesn't know who you are?"

He smiled as he patted my hand and said. "She doesn't know me, but I still know who she is."

I had to hold back tears as he left. I had goose bumps on my arm, and I thought, "That is the kind of love I want in my life."
~unknown

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