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I don't even know how to post a message. I have never had time for things like this. I am a Christian married woman. I have been married 20 years to one man and we have three children, two teens and one seven year old. My husband has Huntington's Disease. It is a serious neurological degenerative disease. He has dementia at age 48. I care for him and the children and work full time. I am the sole family support. This disease comes on slowly and the symptoms look very much like someone being lazy and irresponsible. They cause quite a bit of troulbe. But the real reason is their brain cells are dying. It is genetic. Each of my children has a 50% chance of getting this disease. Since little is known about it it took 13 years for us to get a diagnosis. During that time there was alot of up and down financially until finally 7 years ago with the birth of our last daughter, my husband never worked again or drove a car or made a decision. Now he cannot care for himself. I have no family that is near. To save us financially after trying to earn a living in NY i sold the house there and moved us to North Carolina. With the Lord's guidance I was able to secure a job, buy a home here (with cash, I have no credit) pay off creditors and buy a car (also with cash) I have taken very good care of my family. My kids are good kids. As hard as I have worked though it is not enough. I believe that tomorrow I will be fired from my job. Not because of any misconduct or lack of hard work but I can't make the sales numbers they would like quick enough. I really loved this job and all of the accounts I have taken care of. I don't have much fight left I am so tired. Finally we were doing well financially. I haven't the time to make friends and support systems here so having enough money to care for everyone takes the pressure off of me. I was even able to begin working out at a club and losing the stress weight I had gained. I have been getting into good shape, keeping up with all my family duties and time with the Lord and I just don't know why he would take this away from me. i have been a good and loving wife, even when our church back home thought I should separate from my husband because of his behavior- which I knew was not him, I knew who I had married. I have found medicine and supplements that have brought him back to a good level of functioning and out of the psychosis state he was in. He can again understand us and bathe himself and eat on his own. Why would God desert me like this? I really am so tired and I am not up for another long fight and no money and new job adjustments. I can't say everything here. Someone tell me why?

Hi lisaro,

Welcome to Christians Unite.

I am sorry to hear of your difficulties and I will be praying for you.

God never promised us a life here on earth that would be perfect. In fact He told us that we would have trials and tribulations. It is far from being easy on any of us but the Lord is with us. He has not forsaken us.

There are many good Christians here that will be happy to pray for you and your family.

Sometimes we just have to keep trusting the Lord.  And there are always people that have it worse than us.  My young married cousin has been battling cancer for over 4 years now....4 surgeries, 2 sets of chemos, 2 sets of radiations, hyperbaric chamber treatments, teeth and jaw bone removed, uses mouth device to try to stretch her mouth open more (it was oral cancer)...plus her husband might want to leave her.

I pray that somehow you will not lose your job.  Perhaps you can talk with them and see if they will give you more time to boast your job quota?  Also, please find a good church in your new area so you won't be so alone.

Hello lisaro, welcome to Christians Unite forum.  I will also be praying for you.

I will keep you in my prayers and keep your peers in my prayers also.  They need the prayers for a caring heart.

You are a remakable person and The Lord knows this  - He does not turn His back on any child of His.

Well, I did lose my job today but I am not as upset as I thought. I am very strong in the Lord now and know that he will guides me to the next place. I will take some time to listen. Thank you all for your prayers and pray that he meets our needs during this time of unemployment. My boss really does like and respect me and they said they would write me glowing letters of recommendation. They are not replacing me and said that they are not making enough money in the state so essentially they are downsizing and with all that is on my plate I am the most likely candidate to go although I am not the first but the third they let go. God knows my heart and I am sure he has prepared something for me that I can handle better with my current situation. Blessings to you all.


Lisa

Hi Lisa..

I have been in the same situation...The economy is getting worse all the time...and many are getting out of the University only to find mowing jobs...It is sad and I there is an issue of most jobs being given to those who are not citizens of the Untied States as well as the person getting a job has to be bilingual...but...thanks be to God...for he protects and provides for his people and will give you exactly what you need as he alone gives the strength when we trust in the one who gives far more than man can give...
You grew in trusting and that is pleasing to God...
Welcome to the forum...

Good to know it was just down-sizing and not anything to do with your job performance!  :)