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Hi.  Today there was a really bad wreck.  One of the boys involved goes to church with me.  He is in ICU right now and he's on life support.  He just went into surgery to have pressure removed from his brain.  The doctors say that it will me a miracle if he lives.  PLEASE remeber him in your prayers.

MJC

Hello MJC,

Sister, I will join you in prayer. We know that GOD is ABLE - HIS Will be done!

Love In Christ,
Tom

Psalms 139:16 NASB  Your eyes have seen my unformed substance; And in Your book were all written The days that were ordained for me, When as yet there was not one of them.

Romans 8:16-18 NASB  The Spirit Himself testifies with our spirit that we are children of God, and if children, heirs also, heirs of God and fellow heirs with Christ, if indeed we suffer with Him so that we may also be glorified with Him. For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory that is to be revealed to us.

I will join in prayer for this young man.

I'm praying for this young man, as well.

Praying for him, too.

Today they said that there was no brain activity.  His mom and grandmother(who has heart trouble) is having a really hard time.  His dad is trying to be strong for his mom.  His parents said they wanted to pray about it and let it sink in before they tell them to pull the plug.

Thank you, sister for the update. This is a difficult time for this family. My prayers are with them.

MJC,

Sister, Please let the family know that we are praying for them.

Love In Christ,
Tom

Romans 11:33 NASB  Oh, the depth of the riches both of the wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable are His judgments and unfathomable His ways!

MJC, my prayers are with his family, and friends. 

God has a reason for this happening, what I don't know.  Please remember to keep Christ, close to you sister.  Now is the time that satan will try to strike at the family, and friends.  Specially after what you have been through, these past few months.

We had special prayer meeting for Tyler at church tonight.  His parents are both in a terible position.  They don't want to have to make a decision like that.  His dad said that he either wants God to heal him or go ahead and take him home.  They said that there is very little blood getting to his brain and if this changes to where there is no blood getting to the brain then they will declare him legally dead.  The doctors said that from his injuries, it appears that the jeep rolled over the back of his head.

Also, pray for our pastor.  He's been at the hospital the past two or three days with all of this and he's just drained.  He said that he doesn't know how his parents are dealing with it all.  He is trying to be strong for the whole family and he's just worn out.

MJC

Thank you for your prayers and please continue.

Yes, sister my prayers are for all of you on this. It is hard on all involved.

Hello MJC,

I saw many cases like this in 25 years of police work. Nobody likes to make a decision like this. There are tests they can do to determine how much and which portions of his brain are already dead. The time could come when his brain is dead and he is only technically alive. I have a living will to prevent extraordinary means to keep me technically alive, and many Christians do. Some might argue this, but I don't think there is a moral argument when brain death is present. I hope their doctor will tell them the complete and blunt truth.

In the meantime, I will be praying for this entire family and everyone involved.

Love In Christ,
Tom

Proverbs 3:5-10 NASB  Trust in the LORD with all your heart And do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He will make your paths straight. Do not be wise in your own eyes; Fear the LORD and turn away from evil. It will be healing to your body And refreshment to your bones. Honor the LORD from your wealth And from the first of all your produce; So your barns will be filled with plenty And your vats will overflow with new wine.

I'm so sorry....God only knows why these things happen.  Praying for you all.  God bless you.

Well, we got some bad news today.  When I got home from my grandparents house, my mom told me that Tyler had passed away today.  I don't know the details of what took place today.  Last I knew they were trying to wean him off of the breathing machine, and I guess his body couldn't handle it.  This is so unbelievable to me because he was a year younger than me.  I don't know what to think, but our prayers are turned to his family now.  Things are going to be really tough for them.  They are leaning on God right now, so I guess that's the best thing they can do.  They still need a lot of prayer though.  Almost everyone that goes to our church is kin to him.  His cousins, grandparents, aunts and uncles, just everybody.  This is the biggest tragedy our church has faced in a long time.  Please just pray for strength and comfort for everyone involved.

MJC

I'm so sorry to hear that. Such times as this are very trying of our faith. If all involved will turn to the Lord and to each other it can strengthen all in Christ and bring all to be closer in each other also. I will definitely be praying for this church family.

Hello MCJ,

We will keep everyone in our prayers.

In the meantime - KEEP LOOKING UP!

Love In Christ,
Tom

1 Corinthians 12:27 NASB  Now you are Christ's body, and individually members of it.

God be with you all and give you comfort and His peace.  Tyler is now with our Lord.

Yes MJC I will be praying for your Pastor as well.

My mom went up to his grandparents house today.  Their whole family was up there.  She said that his Grandpa looks about 10 years older than he did Sunday morning.  Everyone is taking it really rough.  His parents are both just all to pieces.  The wake is tomorrow night and then the funeral is Sunday afternoon.  The next few days are going to be really rough on the family.  Please just keep them in your prayers.

MJC

MJC, I'm so sorry to hear of Tyler's passing.  My prayers go out to his family and friends.  I will also lift you in prayer, as I can only imagine how terrible you feel.  Sudden death, especially involving someone young, is never easy.  We don't know why these things happen, only God knows.  Hopefully his family can find comfort in knowing that he is now in the loving arms of Jesus, and they have God's promise that they will see him again.

I just got home from the wake.  There were so many people there.  When I left church Sunday morning, I didn't expect to come back for this.  The wake was held at our church.  I walked in and it was like a dream.  I can't believe that he's gone.  His mom is a wreck.  She is so sweet, but she's just a mess.  I know I would be too in her position.  She just asked me to pray for her.  I told her that I had been and will and that God would take care of her.  What do you say to someone that just lost their child?  The funeral is tomorrow and I am not looking forward to it at all.  It just doesn't seem real.

MJC

It is a hard thing to find any words that seem appropriate, sister, but it sounds like you did just fine. My heart and prayers goes out to this family as well as to all those that knew Tyler.

Sometimes a hug is enough when there are no words.  What you did say was fine.  God bless.

I went to the funeral today.  It was really ruff.  They literally had to drag his mom away from the casket when they got ready to close it.  They wanted all the family to go in the back of the church.  She said she wasn't leaving her baby and that they weren't going to make her and she was just wailing.  I felt sooooo bad for her.  After this all started everybody in the church was crying.  I can't stand to see someone in such agony.  The next several months are going to be so hard for them.  Then when his birthday comes around in November its going to all start again.  It is so different when you see something like this happen to other people's family and everything.  But when its someone that you really know and care about it hits you.  Please just continue to pray for all involved. 

MJC

Amen. I have attended many a funeral and have cried with the family each time. It is a sorrowful thing to be separated from a loved one even though it is only a temporary separation. Praise God one day we will be in a place where there will be no more sorrow, no tears, just joy in and with our Lord and Saviour, Jesus Christ.

That must have been very hard for everyone.  Praying that God will help her through it all.

Yes sister, I will keep everyone in my prayers.

It is so hard when a child passes away...There are no words that can comfort..but God can comfort when we cannot...and He is so close to those who are broken hearted...May the grace of God and His peace and comfort be upon this family...may they feel His presence surround them...

Grief has no time limit...in the grieving process...may the body be give direction through the Holy Spirit to minister to these whose hearts are broken..even by a touch...a hug...silence can be more than words when silence is compassion...

Maryjane

Yes, it is temporary, but I don't think it really makes the parents feel any better, even though it is so true.  All they can think about is how are they going to get through life without their beloved child. 



One other thing that I forgot to mention is that it has been almost a week now since he died, and they haven't gone home yet.  His mom doesn't want to.  They have been staying at Tyler's grandparent's house.  This is another thing that will help start the healing process.  When they go home to that empty house, away from all the people that are swarming them right now it's all going to start coming down on them.  Then when they walk into that empty bedroom with all of his stuff in it, it's just going to be terrible.  I feel so bad for them.  And someone said something about holidays would be hard, his birthday is just in three or four months.  I just can't get across with words how badly prayers are needed here.  Thank you all.

MJC

Sister, I fully understand what they are and will be going through. My wife and I lost a little boy in 1987 while I was overseas and she was stateside. It was a month and half before I could get back to be with her. It was a hard time for us all. Only the Lord got us through.

Yes, my continued prayers will be with them.

MJC, I can't say that I know how they feel, because I don't.  However, I do understand the pain of loss.  It will take time, but the Lord will make a way.

Pastor Roger, I see that we both lost sons in 1987.  I'm sorry for your loss, I know he will always be in your heart. 

As I am sure that yours will be in your heart. Praise God that we will one day be reunited with them.