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I have been pondering this question... Is kissing before marriage bad ???

We all know that abstinance before marrige is what God commands us but what about kissing ???

I have seen with some people kissing can actually lead to other things which are not at all good, but have also seen that in certain relationships kissing is just kissing... I am in a mixed mind about it :-\

Can anyone share there thoughts?

I say it's fine. A kiss is a gester (spelling) of love. sex is another story.

Hello mistfaer, first allow me to welcome you to CU, I hope you will enjoy you visits here  ;)

Mist sometimes when people ar fond of someone they express it with a kiss.
There are many type of kisses, for example there are kisses you give a brother and uncle, a father, a brother, a sister, a mom, an aunt... you know just a kiss on the cheek and a quick hug, sometimes even friends give each other hugs and a quick kiss.

There are also kisses that people give each other to show each other fondness and sometimes these can get out or hand. That is why it is not good for unmarried to be alone together, in places where things can happen.

I hope this helps you a little bit, you have given me an idea thought an maybe I should star looking for some Q&A that young people ask and post them here at CU

Hello again Mist, I began an article yesterday that has to do with the aged giving advice to the young I am sure that you will find a lot of wisdom in this thread, I'm not done with it yet but there is a lot of wisdom there to be learned.
Below is the link :D


http://forums.christiansunite.com/index.php?topic=12926.msg171980#msg171980

Thanks so much for that! It really helped ;)

It's one of those topics that isn't really covered in detail... The whole dating thing is confusing to me, because I only want to do what God commands me to and I find that the worlds perspective on dating is quite different the the Christians perspective and often the two get mixed...

I have no idea how old you are and therefore I don't know exactly how to pray for you.

Age matters a lot because if you are very young such as a teen o in your early 20's, you can be so filled with emotions and sometimes they are and can be confusing and misunderstood. As you get a little older you become a little wiser, hopefully not by experience. Love can sometimes hurt a lot.

Enjoying the company of friends of the opposite sex is good as long as you are not putting yourself in a situation where you may find yourself doing or having done something you may regret. It is always good to go out with a lot of other 'single friends' and hav good clean fellowship. The church I go to has a singles' night they go out in a group and they either go bowling, to a movie, to putt-putt, a theme park, or just to a nice restaurant and just enjoy fellowship with each other. Some of the ministers too are single and they all have a wonderful time.

Thanks again for the input :)

I'm a very mature 18 year old... I've never actually dated before although I have come close to it and there have been guys that I have had feelings for but nothing has ever come of it which I believe is the Lord's hand... I am part of a young adults singles group which is a true blessing to me.  My biggest problem is I don't know how to deal with guys or the dating thing... I've always said that I don't want to actually date but I would rather like to go into a sort of courtship and get married... But I find that nobody around me takes that seriously and I do feel a kind of pressure to date...  I am praying for the Lord's guidance for me but I also find that because of the emotions I have on this subject it's difficult to hear the Lord's voice :-\

Mist the entire topic in the link I sent you deals with all the questions you have. I know that sometimes young people feel peer pressure into doing things they don't feel comfortable with. But to me you sound like a very wise person, you are still young, God will answer all your prayers. He has the perfect Christian man for you. It's all in God's timing.

I will be praying for you. I hope the topic I posted helps you. I am very old fashioned, I only dated one guy, was engaged for almost 2 years then got married, then had children.. I still feel that is hhow it has to be.